Social Media: Friend or Foe?

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It all Started with Likes

I remember the first time I paid attention to Facebook likes. I was scrolling through my Facebook feed when I came across a friend’s profile picture that had just been added.

Because she was my friend, I thought I’d better give it a like. As I moved the little arrow cursor over top of the like button, a three digit number caught my eye. I took a closer look and realized that she had gotten over a hundred likes in the past few hours. It was crazy! I quickly added my seemingly useless like to her collection and proceeded to my profile to check out my own likes situation. I clicked on my profile picture and scanned the screen in search of my likes. When I finally found the number of likes I squinted my eyes to make sure I was seeing clearly. To my dismay, the number wasn’t any more than ten. I was baffled.

And this my friends, was the beginning of my obsession with likes.

A New Obsession

My obsession thrived until the day I came across the video above. Ironically, it was the same friend who’s likes I admired who happened to share this video on Facebook. As I watched the video my obsession became known to me I realized that the likes on a picture that took me an hour to take were not what I thought they were. Just because I had 50+ people liking my pictures on Facebook didn’t mean that I those 50+ people actually supported me in real life. Similarly, just because I had 100+ friends on Facebook didn’t mean that I actually had 100+ friends in real life. Even though it all felt real, I was beginning to realize that it wasn’t.

After high school, my obsession with likes started to die down. It wasn’t long before my previous habits of concocting the perfect caption, finding the most complementary filter, adding endless hashtags, and even deleting a post if it didn’t receive enough likes, were soon behind me. Then I started a new obsession — not going on social media.

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Today, inspirational videos and posts that denounce the persistent use of social media are still very much a reality, much like my obsession with not going on social media. I post to Facebook and Instagram here and there, but there are more times then not that I make a point to stay off of social media. Whether that be while out with friends, at the supper table, in line at the grocery story, etc. I am always trying to stay off. It’s what has been ingrained in me. It’s what I have thought to be right… and real.

A New Perspective

What I have been considering more recently, are the positive effects of the social media. You see, the above video did a great job at exemplifying the negative impacts of social media, but it lacked to point out the positive. My latest perspective on social media was first given to me when I came across the article “Forget Screen Time Rules — Lean In To Parenting Your Wired Child” by Anya Kamenetz.  In the article, Kamenetz interviews Jordan Shapiro, author of The New Childhood and an advocate for less limits on screen time. In their interview Shapiro explains,

We have family dinner in our house. It’s mostly device-free. No one should be watching YouTube videos the whole time. But most of the time we have conversations that necessitate pulling up a YouTube video or Googling something to make a point. They’re not going to learn good date behavior if they’ve never had a phone before.”

This got me thinking about the countless times my Mom scolded my Dad, Sister and I for using our phone at the table, even if it was to show a picture of something I saw that day, or a news article that pertained to what we were talking about. I can see how under circumstances such as these, the use of technology and social media could actually be good! Despite what I may have made myself believe, social media is not something that we can avoid. It is apart of our everyday life. In his article, “The IRL Fetish“, Nathan Jurgenson says it best,

“Let’s not pretend we are in some special, elite group with access to the pure offline, turning the real into a fetish and regarding everyone else as a little less real and a little less human.”

Technology and social media are good. They help everyone in different ways from simply keeping us up to date on what is happening in the world around us to connecting those who are far away. Can technology and social media be bad? Yes. But that is only if they are used badly. As long as we keep in mind how our use of technology and social media is impacting us and those around us, we can reap the extraordinary benefits without loosing anything.

Thanks,

-Tiana

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4 thoughts on “Social Media: Friend or Foe?

  1. Hi Tiana!
    I really enjoyed reading this post! I can complete relate to the “obsession with likes” phase that you experienced, as I feel it is something that most of us have gone through at one point or another. I remember in high school when all of my friends would attach countless hashtags to their selfies and when questioned about it, they all said “it’s just about getting more like”. This always floored me, as I saw them using hashtags such as #puppies or #food to describe a picture of themselves sitting in class. I didn’t realize that people would go to that extent just to get more likes on instagram! Over time, I realized that this was not something unique that my friends were doing, as so many people were using these popular hashtags to get more likes on images that had nothing to do with them! Did you ever experience anything like this before?

    Anyways, I think that you did a great job of highlighting both sides of the technology and social media debate. I have always been a fan of technology, but this week has really opened my eyes to the dangers that are out there and all the ways in which the internet can manipulate reality. It’s all about finding that balance and knowing how to use it I guess!

    -Lauren

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    1. Hi Lauren! Thanks for your comment.I definitely also experienced the hashtag craze phase. #Puppies and #Food were extremely popular amongst my friends as well. I also remember #LikeForLike or #FollowForFollow or #LikeForFollow… It was ridiculous! Youth still struggle with likes, but I wonder if they still go through hashtag phases like we did?

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  2. Hi Tiana,
    I want to start by saying that your blog is beautiful! You have done an excellent job setting it up to be both easy to navigate and full of your personality, sending off an awesome impression of who you are as an educator. Secondly, I love the personal connections you made in your post! It isn’t always easy to admit that we once fell for the social media trap and over concerned ourselves with the number of likes our pictures received, but, it is the reality. My mom also did not allow devices at the supper table but you make valid points as to when it could be used beneficial rather than as an antisocial distraction. Keep up the great work Tiana!

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